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| Most of us have made poor choices in our past. We've endured the misery of being in failed relationships that left us broken-hearted, jaded, and cynical. We have had our share of bad dates that led to nowhere. And through those poor choices and mistakes, we've learned and came to realize what works and what doesn't work for us; and we refuse to settle for less than what we are looking.
When people ask us about our standards and criteria, we rattle a long list of characteristics. Why? Because we believe that we know exactly what we want and need in a potential mate. I've experienced the heart-ache of a bad relationship, and I've had my share of disappointments from going on dates after dates. The more dates I went on, the longer my list got. Why? Because I am, too, believed that I knew exactly what I wanted and needed in a potential mate. Or so I thought.
Lately, I've started to question myself about the list. While spitting out that long list of all these characteristics, I wonder if I really knew what is important, and what's not important. I wonder what qualities within that list are needed and what qualities are the just the extra toppings. People say that sometime we don't know the differences between our wants and needs. Furthermore, sometime what we want isn't what we need, and vice versa. A girl may want to get swept off her feet by a man who's tall, dark and handsome, but what she really needs is just the right man for her and she has to choose to be with him for the right reasons. But how does she know which one is the right one for her?
We meet someone, we're attracted to him/her, and we feel connected. We then exchange experiences, and find out that we have mutual interests and common grounds. It feels as though we've found someone who can give us that warm and fuzzy feeling inside. Obviously, he/she has the characteristics and traits that we want and he/she makes us happy, but the question is, does she/he has what it takes to give us what we need for a lifetime of happiness?
What we want isn't necessarily good for us. And in going after the person we think we want, we ignore what we really need. So how do we know which one we want, and which one we need? How can we distinguish the two?
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| To Do List1) Work up the courage to dine out and see a movie by myself (First one on the list, but may be the last one to get completed. Might as well make it one of my new year's resolutions  ) 2) Get a new haircut3) Renew my passport 4) Take nieces to Butterfly Conservatory 5) Park and people-watch6) Body Worlds Exhibit with nieces.7) Niagara-on-the-Lake wine tasting bike tour (Really want to try this, but I'm told this may not be a good idea, because biking while intoxicated is pretty much asking for trouble?  ) 8) Taste of Buffalo9) Italian Festival10) The Niagara Wine Trail Wine & Culinary Festival11) Finger Lake Riesling festival (Missed it)12) Take nieces to see Shakespeare in Delaware Park13) Dates with Mom14) Toronto (contingent on successfully completing #3)15) Go to the temple with Mom16) Trips to B&N17) Write letters to friends 18) Niece's birthday (BBQ in Niagara Falls)19) Cherry picking20) Thursday at the square21) Martini bar and people watching on Elmwood22) BFF23) Labor Day Weekend - National Buffalo Wing Festival + ()24) September 18-27 - Niagara Wine Festival 25) October 10-13: VA to visit brother and nieces 26) October 16-19: NYC for bridal/bachelorette/birthday 27) November 20-21: NYC for wedding 28) Dec-Jan - Cali for winter vacation | | |
| Why does it feel like I'm about to have a heart attack? This gotta stop!
How dare T-mobile deleted my saved voicemail messages without my permission!?
Is FarmVille addictive or am I being competitive?
Do you think "We were on a break!" is a legit excuse?
What have I forgiven, but not forgotten?
Emotion or rationality?
Why is it so hard to find a threading salon here?
Must I drive to TO for a freaking haircut everytime!!!???
Waste can be recycled and re-manufactured, but can you say the same about love?
Why is my school charging me an arm and a leg?!? Unlimited printing and parking lot security guards do not justify it!
Deep fried butter served at Texas fair? WTH! Sounds like a heart attack waiting to happen.
No, I do not twitter, and never will. Do you?
Can you please give me something to work with here?
Why am I dying my hair black when my hair is already black? My mom asked me the same question...
Why is that 40-year-old lady dressed like a teenager?
I love working with refugees. Why didn't I do this sooner?
Why can't I go to bed before 4 A.M., and wake up after 9 A.M these days?
I tried knitting a scarf, but gave up half-way, because it looked awful. Is that bad?
If a person doesn't back it up with action, does that mean he/she is insincere?
Why are you looking at me like that?
Can you man up? Please?
Did you really think that things would magically come together or happen while you're sitting there twirling your thumbs?
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| I want you to know that everything is not what it seems. Don't let your assumptions cloud your judgement, because I've always been here...since day one.
There's someone out there...
I want you to know that there's so much I need to say to you. Maybe someday when this ride slows down, and get our feet on the ground, I'll come around, and say something. I miss you, and I hope you are well.
There's someone out there...
I want you to know that you have a beautiful heart, and there's something about you that makes me feel very comfortable and at ease with myself when I'm with you. I can't wait until December.
There's someone out there...
I want you to know that I can handle the heat in Texas, but I still hope you'll change your mind about NYC...Don't worry about eating French fries for dinner, because I'll learn how to make Pho. 
There's someone out there...
I want you to know that I couldn't have asked for a better friend, a confident, and a listener. Please don't stop being the wonderful that you are, and I will see you in a few months. 
There's someone out there...
I want you to know that I'm still looking at your back, but don't turn around. Just keep walking.
There's someone out there...
I want you to know that you make me laugh wholeheartedly without any reserve, and everything just comes together when you're around.
There's someone out there...
I want you to know that "chance made us Sisters, choice made us friends."
There's someone out there...
I want you to know that I've never came across anyone like you, and you bring out a side of myself that I never knew existed. And you have the most amazing smile that I've ever seen.
There's someone out there...
I want you to know that I am ok...Don't worry about me. I guess the pieces didn't fit, because they didn't belong in the same puzzle.
There's someone out there...
I want you to know that I hope to go to Paris with you someday. 
I want you to know that I hope (and I hope so hard) that you haven't done anything that would make me not want to talk to you ever again. I hope and hope that my hopes will pay off like how they did for Andy.
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